Welcome to 100 Neighbors Project
Why 100 Neighbors?
Your neighbors are those that live closest to you and those that you can easily form a community with. Forming strong communities of 100 people across the nation will form a stronger America. The ultimate goal is to create communities free of fear and awkwardness and full of awesomeness and fun.
We had no idea how big the number 100 actually is until we first began meeting our neighbors. Ultimately, the number 100 stuck because it is rather catchy, but the purpose of the project is to create meaningful relationships and experiences. The project is not meant to be a race to meeting 100 people without any real connections being made. You know you’re doing this project correctly if you feel that the ethos of your community is slowly changing and you feel a change within yourself as well.
But I don’t know any of my neighbors right now…
That is totally ok, and why this project is needed in your town.
How do I begin?
There are many different models and there will definitely be a learning curve since each community is different. One of the best suggestions that we can offer is not to get upset when your model doesn’t meet with immediate success. Remember, this is a new project for everyone and change is often met with resistance. Below are a few models that or may or may not work for you, but continue to help us along our journey.
- Start off small and invite one or two people/families over for a casual meeting at your place, introduce the idea, and be sincere about really getting to know people.
- Write a letter that introduces the idea and leave it in peoples’ mailboxes. That way, they know to expect someone that is friendly and not someone who is trying to sell them something. This allows people to mentally prepare for the encounter as opposed to being caught off-guard.
- If the weather permits, invite people to an outside bbq, leaving flyers in their mailboxes. You can request that each person brings a dish and ask that they rsvp to a community bbq email address.
- There may be a lot of kids in your neighborhood. You may have kids yourself. Kids are one of the best icebreakers, see if it a possibility to establish a playgroup for your neighborhood.
- Be sure to smile. Smiling is one of the easiest ways to get people to open up to you.
- Simply knock on someone’s door an introduce yourself as their neighbor. You might want to bring a small gift, such as brownies or fresh fruit.
- If you are technologically savvy, set up a free blog where you can document the people you meet and the experiences you have. This will help in establishing a network of your neighbors that can get to know your (and their!) other neighbors virtually before physically meeting. Here is an example blog, for our West Hartford Ct 100 Neighbors. You can set up a free blog at any one of these sites: WordPress.com or Blogspot.com.
- Be creative, have fun, and don’t get discouraged. There is no time limit for you to reach your target, but the point is to establish a community that is there for one another.
What if people say no?
- This is to be expected, so don’t let it get you down. A lot if nos in a row can feel very discouraging, and it is ok if you want to take a break from the project for a while. The first thing to keep in mind is that the project required a lot of “stick to it ive-ness.” However, we promise, that with persistence and patience you will start seeing the fruits of your hard work. If they say no, there are many other neighbors for you to get to know, and remember that you will not become friends with every single neighbor that you meet, and that is ok. Thank them for their time and wish them a nice day. No matter what, kindness begets kindness.
Once you have met a few of your neighbors, start planning monthly brunches, outings in the park, or even start a book club. Each group will decide what is best for them, but the idea is to create a community of openness and awesomeness. When people talk, misconceptions get shattered and understanding permeates the mind. We are working to create a nation of understanding people who respect one another despite their differences.
Good luck, and don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions.